He Who Has A Mouth, Mistakes Makes
¿Apoco no? ¿Cuantas veces no hemos metido la pata? Most times, from literally opening our mouths just one too many times – perhaps at the wrong time, in front of the wrong people, or even worse, without even realizing every single word we are saying is being heard…almost always by the one person we don’t want to know exactly what we really think.
And once it’s done, it’s not like we can just take our words back or pretend they were never said. They’re out there! Up for interpretation, miscommunication, confrontation, etc. All we can do at that point is damage control.
¡Ay, es que no me entendiste! You did not understand what I was saying, or how I was saying it. You missed the context of my words. How much did you actually hear? Had you heard the rest of my conversation, you would understand why I said what you heard – an honest attempt at completely annihilating the other person’s interpretation of our words by convincing them they are missing some mysterious piece of a verbal puzzle. However, be forewarned this excuse will only work a limited number of times. Soon enough you’ll be hearing: no estes chingando, como que no entendi si no estoy sordo…or any other similar reclamaciones.
Then you may you want to move on to option # 2.
¡Yo no dije eso! With fury in the voice. What are you taking about? I never said that! You must be imagining things! Whatever! – the thought of you thinking about me in such a way that I would say such a thing is so enraging that it makes me want to scream at the top of my lungs. Combined with a furled brow and somber face this single action may very well avoid many a heated yelling matches…at least the ones where you are the one getting yelled at the loudest.
If even this attempt does not deliver the expected outcome, one final suggestion. Mujeres you are particularly good at this one…don’t deny it, just accept it.
Suelta el llanto. Open the floodgates and let the lagrimas de cocodrilo flow. Your poor fellow will be so confused and ridden with guilt that he won’t know what to do to calm you down (he knows if you’re not at peace he surely won’t be). The last thing he’ll want to do is continue any argument where you’ll be shedding tears and spewing feelings all over the place. With other women, though, this method likely will not work. Like a sixth sense, most women can also seemingly detect when another member of their same sex is spinning lies to get what they want. Sort of like The Little Boy Who Cried Wolf…only the adult female version.
Maybe it’s all the telenovela watching, or just the many years of practice, but after putting my foot in my mouth one too many times, and in preparation for the many more times that are surely to come in the future, I can honestly say I consider myself somewhat of an expert on all of these defense mechanisms.
On a sort of related side note, more of a public service announcement: if you’re going to talk smack…make sure you’re not leaving the person you are talking smack about a voicemail recording with every single word you utter on it. Not a very smart move.
Hey Juan, glad to see you “back”.
This accidental voicemail message is intriguing but I won’t press for details. I’m going to pretend I’m not a metiche 😉
This reminds me of the time Suegra was home by herself. She doesn’t usually answer the phone unless it goes to the answering machine and she can hear that it’s one of her friends… Well, one of her friends called and started to leave a message but Suegra picked up and they had a nice little chat —- which was completely RECORDED by the answering machine, unbeknownst to her.
Do I really have to tell you that she talked smack about me, or did you already guess?
Anyway, Suegra also likes to use the “no me entendiste” one. This actually worked for a long time because it just made me insecure about my Spanish. LOL. My husband would be like, “No, she didn’t mean it like that. When Salvadorans say that, it doesn’t mean what you think” — Mmmhmm. No doubt this is true sometimes, but they definitely over-used that excuse!