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My Brother is a Zombie, I’m Morena & I Couldn’t Love Him Any More!

By Isabel Martinez

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I’ve always wondered how two people who grew up in the same house could be so different.

For the longest time people thought my brother and I were twins.  But no, that is not the case.  In fact, my brother is all of 14 months and 10 days older than me.  Still, even having been born at such a close proximity to one another my brother and I could not be more opposite from one another if we tried.  He likes dressing up like a zombie when he goes out, for example.  Me, I’m just more comfortable in my “normal” clothes.  We’re even different culturally, if you can believe that.

It’s like I got all the Mexican from our family and he got all the American.

He’s light-skinned with colored eyes.  I’m morena with, can you believe it, brown eyes.  I like mole and arroz.  He likes spaghetti and meatballs.  He speaks Spanish as a second language.  I speak it as if it were the only language I know.  Speaking  of that, my mom used to tell us that when my brother was little she would try to teach him how to talk in Spanish.  He never uttered a word until she changed the language.  Once she started talking to him in English he caught on almost immediately.  Go figure?  Then, when I was 4 and he was 5 I started translating for him and our babysitter who only spoke Spanish.  I think that’s where I developed my knack for translating.

So, of course, what happened today should not have surprised me at all.

Today was my brother’s birthday.  My dad and I wanted to wish him a happy birthday.  To do so my dad began to play his ranchera music of a lady singing on his phone.  He then turned and walked away with the music playing in the background.  At that point my brother turned to me and said: “My dad is so crazy.  What song is that anyway?”

I was shocked in disbelief.

This was MY BROTHER asking me this question!

We have only heard this song COUNTLESS times, on Mother’s Day, birthdays, Valentine’s Day….and almost every other celebratory holiday a Mexican can think of.  The better question would probably be, when do we not play this song?  We use any occasion as a simple excuse to play it.  Me, on the other hand, as soon as the accordion and trumpet hit their first notes I immediately knew which song we were listening to.

Yet there was my brother, still totally and honestly clueless.  I couldn’t believe it.

If you haven’t guessed it by now, this song is one you probably have sung or at least have heard other mexicanos sing before.

I’m talking about Las Mañanitas.

Yes, that song!

So like any good Chicana I immediately began singing along, and once I started, that was all the encouragement my dad needed to join right in.  As we “serenaded” my brother, I couldn’t help but think of all the countless ways me and my brother are different.  And all the reasons why I couldn’t be any happier that we are and with who he is.  Those contrasts are what make our friendship so awesome.  It made me realize that I don’t want my brother to change at all.

I love my brother, the zombie!

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Isabel Martinez is getting her Master’s degree in Theology. When she’s not working or studying she loves cooking, and discovering new things to do in Houston. Follow her on Twitter @shilohgirl_mop

So I Had a Pretty Awesome Happy Birthday!

I’m not usually one of those people that goes on and on about their own birthday.  Although apparently this year I’m kind of becoming one.  ¡Ah… pues nimodo!  In actuality, I just had such a great time yesterday celebrating mi cumpleaños that I wanted to share a couple of pictures with you all here too.  Thanks to all of you who wished me a Happy Birthday yesterday!

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Originally we were going to go to the beach, but since it didn't end up working out that way we figured why not bring a little of the beach to us. Hey, the kids bought into it anyway! Either that, or they were just so hot they wanted to cool off. It was 100 degrees yesterday here in Texas!

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I'm extra proud of my birthday cake! My younger brother is becoming quite the baker and this was his masterpiece for me yesterday. He even put marmalade in the middle like mamá used to do when we were kids. ¡Ya le vamos a llamar el pastelero, jajaja!

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The kids. The kids. The kids. Oh how they make me happy!

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My two baby sisters, of course, couldn't let me get away without getting a little cake on my face. No matter how hard I resisted they were pushing down on my big old head. In the end I just gave in. Thank goodness the frosting wasn't messy enough to get all over my face - another reason to love that cake, ha! And hey, my sisters, their actually pretty strong!

Father to Son: A Birthday Wish for Today …and Tomorrow

Today Edgar is nine!  One year away from 10 and way too many more years than we have actually felt go by.   Por más que me pongo a pensar, the truth is it escapes me where all the time actually went.  He’s no longer just a kid, one who’s simply satisfied with simple explanations.  Now he asks questions and insists with them, he likes to wonder about the world and how it works, and doesn’t have a problem sharing lo que piensa all of the time… to anyone.  He protests when he doesn’t like something.  A few times we’ve actually had to call his attention on it, and remind him who’s in charge here.  We are.  I think.

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He’s excited.  We’re scared.  Scared that we’re not ready for his teens.  Scared that we’ve not done the absolute best job we possibly could have.  Scared that one day we’ll wake up and he’ll be on his way out the door.  Starting his own life, all grown up, and never to be our “baby” anymore.  Pretty soon he’ll want to drive.  Pretty soon he’ll want to plan his own Saturday night.  Pretty soon he’ll be yelling and screaming about “how it’s not fair.”  Pretty soon he’ll be falling in love… and then having his heart broken.  Pretty soon!

I’m definitely not ready, but what I do know is last night when he came over to us like he does every night to kiss us goodnight and tell us how much he loves us in that sweet little voice I made a mental picture of that instant in time, froze it in my mind, and tucked it away at the bottom of my heart.

This is exactly how I want to remember this moment.

¡Feliz cumpleaños mi papito!  I love you.    

Happy Birthday, Bikini!

Evolution of the Bikini

Eeny, weeny, teeny, weeny… little polka dot bikini! Well actually it could be any design or color, so long as one part “covers the breasts and the other part covers the crotch and part of or the entire buttocks, leaving an uncovered area between the two,” as Wikipedia so eloquently puts it, jajaja!

Why am I blogging about bikinis?  Because it’s their birthday!

According to the deejay on the radio this morning, the modern day bikini turns 65 years old this month.  That seems kind of young for such a staple of the American fashion fiber, but apparently it’s true… after reading more about it online, it turns out, in fact, the bikini turns that age today!  Even more bizarre, that the bikini was created by French engineer Louis Réard in 1946.  He was running his mother’s lingerie boutique at the time and designed the bikini as the world’s “smallest bathing suit,” only to find that once it was done nobody would wear it!

Models refused to sport the bikini because it was too small and revealed too much… clearly he wouldn’t have had that problem today, so the first woman to wear the bikini was actually a nude dancer named Michelle Bernardini.

Así es que Happy Birthday Bikini!

May you have many, many more years to come in the future!

I want to know more about the bikini

Did I ever tell you about the day I was born? – A Guest Post

Secundino Guerrero, wife Dora, and children Patsy and Dolores (L)

I was very fond of my Dad and we were very close.  For several years on my birthday, he would tell me this story about the day I was born.  My Dad was tall and thin.  His name fit him well.  He was dark olive complected with very black hair.  He was very handsome.  He was a happy go lucky man.  He always appeared to be happy.  He was the kind of man who would come in dancing or singing.  He always seemed to live in the now.  He lived life the way we all should live life, in the present.  It is said living in the now means “that yesterday is gone, so don’t worry about it and tomorrow is not yet a reality so don’t worry about that either.”  I think my Dad had some deep seated emotions from his past that he held inside, yet he never let anyone know.

His character was one we should all learn from.  They also say that laughter can cure anything.  He was always happy.  That’s why I loved him so much.

So on my birthday, my Dad would call me and say “Did I ever tell you about the day you were born?”  I would say “Dad”, and he would go on with his story:

It was winter, January 1948.  It had been snowing and it was very early in the morning, still dark.  Four or five in the morning.  Your mom, wakes me and says, “Seco,” short for Secundino, “the baby’s coming.”  I then jumped out of bed and told her I would go start the car.  Because it was winter, everything frozen at night in Colorado.  As I got dressed, she got her things together.  I went out through the snow and started the car.  I wanted to heat it up before she got in.  Well, he would say, I was driving down the road very fast.  I’m so worried that she might have the baby in the car so I decide to drive faster.  As we’re going down the road, a motorcycle cop comes after me.  He stops me and says “Seco, why are you speeding?”

Rocky Ford Colorado was a very small town.  Everyone knew each other by first names, even the police.  My Dad loved that little town.  It’s where he grew up.  It’s where he married, had children and enjoyed his youth with happiness and joy.

It was the late twenties and early thirties.

It was also where he met my mom and fell in love.  It’s where he had me, his favorite daughter.  No matter what mistakes my Dad made, I loved him very much.

Seco was born in Guantajanto, Mexico.  He came to the United States when he was 6 to 8 years old.  They had migrated to this small town during the early 20’s when the United States had developed a program called the Prasedo Program, which allowed immigrant farm workers to enter the United States for a while and do farm labor.  My grandfather came first and several months later sent for my grandmother, Dolores and his three children, Seco being the oldest.

Now imagine Seco, this jolly man saying to the cop, “my wife’s having a baby.  I got to get her to the hospital.” The cop says “Oh, okay Seco, lets go”, gets in front of him and turns on the siren and takes off with Seco in his car, behind him, speeding down the road with sirens.  Seco would say “that’s how we got you to the hospital and that was the night you were born.”

Year after year my beloved Dad would tell the same story.

I took my Dad to the emergency room on my 48th birthday.  He told me the same story as we waited for the doctor.

My Dad would never go home again.

So now on my birthday, I share this story with anyone who wants to hear it.  It’s become a tradition.

About Guest Blog
It is said that sometimes the universe connects you to others with purpose.  That randomly, for reasons you may not even understand, you cross paths, and are inspired, to do something different, try something new, or even just to continue on the path you’re already on.  Such is the case with my guest blogger today, the gifted and wonderfully inspiring Dolores Guerrero.  We met online recently, talking summer heat and memories, her in the mountains of California, me in the humidity of Texas, and what resulted from that initial conversation, and subsequent others, was her granting me permission to share with you this very touching and poignant personal story about her father.  I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did.

About the Author
Dolores Guerrero is an artist and writer living in California, whose artwork has been exhibited at The Museum of Modern Art in New York, the Los Angeles County Museum of Art, Loyal Marymount University Gallery, The Mexican American Museum in Chicago, as well as featured in several books such as Triumph of Our Communities, Four Decades of Mexican American Art, Chicano Art of Our Millennium and Contemporary Chicana and Chicano Art.

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